Influencing People.. July 11, 2008

Everyday whenever we meet people, no matter what they say, what they do, and just by their mood, it might let it affect you. We are easily get influence by other people’s mood, feelings, thought. If you want to stay happy and positive, you have to mix with those that is giving out happy and positive energy. If you mix more with people who are down, demotivated, sad, angry or just plain negative, slowly you tend to be like them!

I always tries to be more positive and always try to see the positive side of things. Of course being humans, there are times when I tend to see toward the negative side of the situation or people. Recently, my colleague has just sent an email which I think it is quite true and meaningful, it’s called ‘The Law of The Garbage Truck’ It goes as below:

GARBAGE TRUCK
Jul 8 2008

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you
let a bad driver, rude waiter, crude boss, or an insensitive employee
to ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're
probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful
person is how quickly she can get back her focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a
New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and

we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right
lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space
right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded
and missed the other car’s back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident,
whipped his head around and he started yelling foul words at us. My
taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And, I mean, he was
friendly. So, I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined
your car and sent us to the hospital!" And this is when my taxi driver
told me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck."

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage,
full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As
their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let
them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't
take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.
You'll be happy you did.

So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck.” I started thinking,
how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do
I take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home,
on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do anymore."
I began to see garbage trucks.

Like in the movie "The Sixth Sense," the little boy said, "I see Dead
People." Well, now "I see Garbage Trucks." I see the load they're
carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I
don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well,
and move on.

One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did
this every day on the football field. He would jump up as quickly as
he hit the ground after being tackled. He never dwelled on a hit.
Payton was ready to make the next play his best.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good
parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school
with hugs and kisses. Leaders and parents know that they have to be
fully present, and at their best for the people they care about. The
bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take
over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life,
starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by? Here's my
bet. You'll be happier. Life's too short to wake up in the morning
with regrets, so.. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about
the ones who don't.

(c) 2008 FoodForThought

 

 Just something to share with all of you and hope you will all enjoy life in a more positive, cheerful and don’t let people to dump their rubbish on you and affect your life!

A week has gone.. June 21, 2008

These few weeks, the days just goes by very fast. In a blink of an eye, its weekend again! This really makes you put some brakes on and reflect what have you accomplish during that week? Have you done what you wanted to do? Have you live it to the fullest? Most of us are just concentrating on our job and therefore our way of life has becoming like routine. Morning wake up, go to work, do OT then go home.. That’s it! How boring..

But last few weeks due to my block nose and cough I get tired easily. Not sure if it is due to the flu or due to the weather, hot and cold in a day, that makes us more lethargic easily. I realize that these few days I get tired very easily and always feels sleepy. Ok Ok.. I can hear you… not enough of sleep like now still on the computer.. Yes that’s probably one of the reason but somehow during weekends when I get to sleep in, I am not able to sleep late as what I used to be able to. Not sure if it is due to the “new” place, environment or just the feng shui thingy.. hmm.. or I am getting old.. oh no!

But I think my flu is recovering bit by bit.. not as noisy as before.. Ok I know its been some time.. not sure why this time round I can’t seem to get rid of it easily… especially my cough.. But at least now its much better.. but still the raindeer walking around with the red nose (after blowing my nose..urgh).

Hopefully after this weekend, I will be fully recovered! This coming weekend.. planning to go crop my hair and have a new image..  hopefully not the same as those that I had during school days.. if not I will look very nerdy and hope my hair this time round is not so fluffy comparing to ages ago..! will see how it goes tomorrow.. if I have the courage to do so! So get to show it off on Sunday – another badminton session with my RE colleagues.

Sick Again.. June 12, 2008

Singapore is always known for the humid and wet weather. But also because of the weather turns wet and hot within the day, many people with their poor resistance will be down with the common flu: sore throat, fever, cough and running nose.

Well.. after my trip I was down for at least a week and recovered for a few day, now I am down again. Sigh.. with my cough and as though it is not bad enough, I have a stuffy nose. Now, I am still the noisy one and also the reindeer walking around with the red nose!

Some tips to avoid:

- Drink more water.. (Look who’s talking..?)

- Eat more Vegetables and fruits

- Daily intake of Vit C

- More Rest & Sleep!

Intro… ? February 20, 2008

There is so many ways of making friends, normally from schools or workplace, meetings, parties, some through internet chatting, some by introduction from friends, relatives. Some that they can click with each other, will continue and be friends. Some still trying to introduce single people with another single with the hopes that they are able to get together and if they really to click  then they will end up be together.

A few months ago, my parent’s friend introduced the same hometown guy to me, with the hope that we will get along.. of course started as friends first. But after the first meeting, I realize that we might not suit as there are not much common topic. He, being a man of a few words, the evening with several stressful quiet moments as I have to keep finding topics to talk about.

Just because I travel, go out and do more activities, people always says that I am a “sam seng poh” in hokkien which meaning “wild girl”, and only girls that always stays at home is obediant… duh.. how boring.. So does that means those guys from the same hometown where everyone knows everyone can be sure that when they say they are good person and can really confirm that they are a good? So basically we can’t find someone that is out from the town, and must find those from the same hometown and getting someone to ask around in the hometown on how they are? good? ok please go out with him.  

Yes, I do admit that good person hard to come by, even if they are really good but when you meet the person, and you don’t feel comfortable or do not even have the inkling to go out with them, do you just go out with them again just because people says he is a good man, hard to come by, money not really a problem, must give them another chance?

I may be a single, and getting older as years goes by, not really sure if my parents really want to marry me off.. maybe to get rid of me or something.. keep pushing me to give this guy another chance. Yes, spinsters does have unique character by their own, but must it have to put ourselves in an auction?

Oh man.. sigh.. now with my elder bro is getting married and my second brother is on the way.. hopefully.. my parents will be busy with theirs and do stop bothering me with this one.. Mum & dad, it is not such a big issue to be alone and single, yes it may be lonely at times, but I kind of getting used to it. Life is not just finding a partner and simply getting one just because people says they are good person, which I am sure he is, but to me is a boring guy… If I really do give him another chance, I have to store up all the topics to cover all the odd silences. geez. sounds more like a chore to me! Then I will be thinking why I am wasting my time with a boring person and making him not enjoying himself because I am bored, where I would rather use that time and rest at home and he can spend his time with other new people!  People, please spare me!

Flu Bug.. December 13, 2007

The weather recently has been wet and gloomy. Has been raining for a few days this week and it creates lots of problem for household as clothes are not dry, working people has a hard time getting to work – those taking public transport has to bring a long their umbrella and for those who drives worried bout being caught in the traffic jam.

Well, being someone who hates to bring umbrella are being forced bring as well. But still on some occasion, I just did not bother with it. However, there is a price being paid. I caught the flu bug that always makes its way during rainy seasons. The symptom of the flu – for me started with sore throat, then running nose + slight fever at the same time throat gets itchy which will leads to caugh.. damn.. When this happen, I feel tired all the time! I always wants to sleep but as I am taking leave next week, I can’t afford to take mc this week as need to clear some work first.

Now I am still not feeling well – stumoch feels funny, nose still running, voice changed. Tomorrow I am travelling up to KL where the next day we are due to arrive at Alor Setar to attend one of our school mate’s wedding. So hopefully these will get better by then if not she will have a sniffing and sneezing “sister” in her wedding!  An early reindeer before Christmas!

Goodbyes… September 27, 2007

Today is such a wet and miserable gloomy day. The weather seems to understand that this is sad day for our department. We have another colleague who is leaving us today. Eventhough we are happy for her as she is quitting to continue her studies.. but it is still sad to see her go.

It is such an emotional end of the day.. By the time she left, most of the people starts getting teary especially those that are very close to her. Eventhough we no longer work together but staying in a small island (Singapore) there might have the possibilities of us end up being colleague again in another organization. We can still keep in touch and meeting up easily for dinners or even lunch!

She is a pretty young lady who dress up very nicely, and always like to look forward in life. She is always worring bout future and her future goals. I guess now she is more or less know her path in life. Still remembering the time we went to BKK and stayed in The Sukhothai,our sister hotel. It was a fun trip.. the massage session where we kept on talking throughout the whole session, the window shopping.. Gonna miss her.. Known her when she was still a trainee which is bout 3 years ago? Time really flies..

Anyhow.. All the best to her and hope that everything she plan will turn out well..

Nervous… August 8, 2007

In our lifetime, this is a common feeling that we felt throughout our life. It affect all of us differently..

During our school times, we get nervous when we go up stage to give a speech in front of the assembly, nervous for our exams, when we receive our results, taking our report cards back to our parents when we fail one of the subjects, parents-teachers days or stage performances.. or even when your crushes approach you..

Comes to work force, we felt it when we go for job interview, meeting the CEO of the company, angry/demanding clients or even your own bosses.. and the list continues..

It is a feeling that we can do without but we can’t go without.. so some of you out there if you do not know what the feeling is … it is the feeling you have when you feel your tummy feels funny like a lot of butterflies flying around or frogs dancing tango in there….

How we overcome the feeling will much depends on each individual, it is very interesting to see how people overcome their nervousness… … some will start moving around, restless…some like me… my tummy will start chunning .. some like my cousin will vomit when he is too nervous.. all types..

It really takes all types of people to make the world and human is a very interesting creature in this world. They have various emotions and reactions which differs from one another when they face with the same situation.. don’t you think so?…

Oh no .. Its Monday! August 6, 2007

Oh no its Monday again! the dreadful Monday is here again~!

When Friday comes, we will see the happy faces when the weekend draws nearer… Happy thoughts of what we going to do during weekend floats in our mind constantly once Saturday approaches.. However.. ZAP! weekend is over… Its now Sunday night.. this is the time where reality kicks in.. Oh no tomorrow is Monday!

You start to get ready for the new week.. iron your clothes… select what you going to wear tomorrow.. what you are going to do tomorrow… and to set your alarm clock for the next morning.. The thought of the next day you have to wake up early and to go to work is so dreadful.. and FINALLY….

The day is here.. the minute is here.. RING!… your alarm clock rings.. the first thing that comes to your groggy mind is ..why is the alarm ringing when it is a Sunday! .. but it started to sink in.. its not Sunday but its a MONDAY!

Everyone experiences Monday blues week by week.. Is there really no joy at all on Monday? Is it really everyone who is in the work force feel this way? Or is it only for people who has no longer has the passion or the drive to work feels it? I guess.. it depends on individuals… for me?

Yes definately I feel it.. but life goes on.. no matter whether you like it or not.. Monday will surely comes.. When it does, all I need to remember is that Monday has only 24 hours.. I just have to get through the 24 hours and Tuesday will be here… and before I know it.. its Saturday again! Whoopee!

Instict… August 2, 2007

This is a rather demoralizing blog.. just something that I need to express today.. I am at my down period now.. *sigh*
Sometimes when people says that woman has a 6 sense for things and feeling.. and most of time they are quite accurate.. I have to admit some of the times is quite true ..

These few days I have a bad feeling on some aspect of my life… and it seems that it is coming true. I have come to a stage that I feel my life is just slipping away and I really need to shape it up and to see where I go from here.. Every day is day in day out.. go to work .. go home.. that it! Twice a week I will go for my yoga sessions.. either hatha yoga or the combat… Has not been going this week.. oh no.. slagging here..

But is this how I wish my life to continue? I truly hope not! I have to find something to excite me, a challenge for me.. something new… hmm like what..

I have to say.. Singapore is a boring place.. there is not much you can do here… any ideas?

I am getting bored.. of my life here, my job.. I guess this is life.. there is ups and downs… there is happiness and sadness.. sometimes you will feel dissappointed at someone.. something.. and when you realize that it is really not happening.. you feel you were such a loser.. so demoralizing.. seeing how days goes by.. time flies by.. and at the end you are still being stuck there.

As though it is not enough when you are trying to find peace and quiet, when you get home, you get nag here and there.. not by my mum, mind you .. but by my aunt who is staying with me.. sometimes, is it worth going through all these? Sometimes I just wish to pack up everything and just go .. go somewhere where no ones knows me, no ones bothers me.. just leave me alone.. but its pretty lonely… huh…

Farewell my friend.. July 27, 2007

Today is a sad day for our office.. especially for me. The desk beside me used to be occupied, however today is vacant and quiet.. It feel so empty and lonely.. and missing the word of “AJIMA”.. being called upon

One of my colleague has left our team and will be going back to Korea. People come and people goes.. that is how things goes. When we go into a company, there will be a time we will be leaving the office..

Eventhough its sad to see her go but if you think the situation in another perspective it is a good opportunity to break away from here to venture into a better organization and career move.. I have to admire her courage to jump into another new organization with different languages, cultures and environment.

If she don’t take the first move of moving on, then I think she will be like me.. becoming the furniture in the office..! Ok ok… yes I do exaggerate a bit here…

“KIMCHI” a nickname that my boss gave my korean colleague. Well.. without me saying you will understand how that nickname comes about.

She is a very easy going, outgoing gal who loves to try out different sports and always looking for her MR Right – guys.. if you have a big bank account and looks like Brad Pitt than please do contact her.. If you don’t, I am sorry to say, you do not qualified.. however if you have friends that fit her requirements, please do not hesitate to contact her.. or rather me first to get her number….KIMCHI.. see I can do some filtration for you…

Yesterday we had a farewell dinner for her at a Noble House in Shenton Way. It started with everyone giving a speech which tend to be a bit sad and tearful..sob..sob.. but over dinner and conversation, the atmosphere was brighten up by another group having karaoke, that would like to share with everyone in the restaurant even though they were in their private room.. I guess his or her audience is not large enough for them and would love to share their vocal skill with the entire hall.

The world can be very big if you want it to be and can be very tiny if you want it to be that, I am sure we will meet or might even be colleagues again in future in a different organization.. nowadays.. we will never be too sure on what is in store for us in future.

Anyway, “KIMCHI” we gonna miss you and we really do wish you all the best and do stay in touch ok. Do take care of yourself and quickly find your MR Right ok.. bring down a few notch of your requirements then should not be a problem .. recommendation anyone?